Mean Words

As parents and teachers we hear them every day. What can we do about it? Children can say the cruelest things, but often they are unaware of the impact of their words on others because the words are so much a part of their common vernacular at school and in the neighborhood. Recently at school [...]

Learning to Care

There is much agreement in developmental research that children display empathy toward others as early as the second year of life, sometimes slightly earlier. This appears to be a shared human quality across cultures that has both genetic and socially constructed aspects. While boys and girls both show emotion or cognitive understanding of another’s distress, [...]

Standing Up vs. Bystanding

Teachers and principals should address “mean teasing” as soon as it appears at the beginning of the school year so all children know the grown-ups are paying attention and giving children strategies to deal with these issues. Unchecked, teasing rapidly turns to bullying. JOIN THE CONVERSATION! Ask Chip a question or share your own thoughts! [...]

Teasing and Taunting: What’s OK?

Today we worry a lot in school about the way children treat each other in mean or hurtful ways. An unsafe school cannot be a high-achieving one. I don’t see this so much in the light of “unsafe behavior” as much as of social skills unlearned or underdeveloped. Children naturally tease each other, and there [...]